Yes, go to the funeral
Because showing up matters “I love funerals!” said no one ever I doubt even morticians say that. At least, not out loud. For the rest of us, there is no “fun” in funerals. That holds true even when they’re called something…
Jan M Flynn
Writer, educator, audiobook narrator, horse whisperer (but they don't always listen to me), and above all, compulsive reader.
Please Don’t Judge Me
I have a weird compulsion My husband enters the room. I close my browser tab He glances at me. “You told me you’d stopped,” he says, and I know he knows what I’ve been doing. “You said you weren’t going to…
Yep, I’m Too Old For That
Popular trends I’m delighted will skip me I have not taken up residence on the dustheap of history Not yet, not by a long shot. In certain dimensions of life, I’m just getting started. As a confirmed and happy late bloomer,…
What I Didn’t Ask Our Safari Guide
Once I would have, but I’m a little wiser now Visiting a foreign country is a lot like being a guest in someone’s home. As a guest, your job is to appreciate the hospitality you’re offered without demanding that things…
What I Learned on Safari
Nature’s balance is perfect. But brutal The day before I left on a long-planned, dream trip to Kenya, a blogger friend sent me a bon voyage message. In part, it read: Let it change you. Indeed it has, in ways…
My Packing List of Expectations
For my big fat vacation This won’t be just any vacation. My husband, my younger son, his wife, and her parents will meet up next week in Nairobi. After a couple of nights to let our internal clocks catch up,…
I Don’t Visit Strip Clubs
As a straight woman of a certain age, you may not find this surprising. But still . . . Having grown up in an era of stupidly rigid norms, I absorbed through my pores the notion that commercial establishments were…
Not That They’re Asking Me, But If They Were
Six Reasons I Won’t Date Younger Men To be clear, I don’t want to date anyone, period. I’m happily married to a man my age. Actually, he’s eight months older. That means that for half of every year, he gets…
Life After Loss
Learning to live past grief: a podcast episode not to miss 1 Whether or not you believe in a soul that survives physical death — some form of consciousness that moves on to another realm of existence, or perhaps diffuses…